One of the tests of the quality of my relationships is the "Hall Test", my ability to look everyone in the eye when we pass.
If I can pass someone in the hall, look them in the eye with no discomfort, I have passed the "Hall Test". If, however, I have unresolved disputes, ill-feelings, unfinished business or, if for any reason, I seek to do a 180, take the first door on my right (or left), or otherwise avoid any person, I have failed the "Hall Test".
What must I do if I fail the Hall Test? Sit down with that person, admit my error, and ask for forgiveness, if appropriate. Even if you have been the one wronged, take the time to say, "I'd like to put this behind us, what can I do to sort this out and move on, making our relationship better?"
I must be able to meet and pass the Hall Test every day and with every person in my life. If I cannot, then I have work to do to resolve differences and settle disputes.
Passing the Hall Test is one of the best measures of good character. |
