If I am afraid, for whatever reason, a possible manifestation of that fear is anger. My anger may be caused by someone's actions that affect me or someone I care about, an injustice, an unwelcome outcome or my own actions - or lack thereof. But the cause doesn't really matter, because if I see a different result than I expected it is entirely possible for me to react with anger.
I might also talk myself into anger. I may take action and while waiting for the results of those actions, convince myself that the outcome will not be as I expect - even though I do not yet know what that outcome will be.
In these cases I am using my anger to deal with my uncertainty, which upon close examination is an unhealthy need for control. So my anger is my way to cover-up for my lack of control of outcomes and results. In my experience, such anger has never served me well; rather, it has served to create issues and problems that did not need to have existed.
When I can learn to accept outcomes which are different from those I anticipate, I am on the path of personal growth and effectiveness. |
